Some people do not want to be hugged My friend's daughter fourteen and seventeen year old son. Once she called me, being in euphoria. She agreed to sit with the baby and her niece is currently talking on the phone, holding a two-month baby on her lap. The ecstatic she told me: "The baby so tiny and delicious, and I'm so happy to hold it in your hands," As long mother, long-legged, shaggy ten-year girl, I'm very well aware of it. Around literally hordes of frustrated parents who are willing to embrace her dear crumbs and who discover that the objects of their affection, without any enthusiasm for this weakness adults. Future parents thought that will always have a charming kid who will be subservient to them all his life. Mothers in particular are prone to indulge in the illusions that the baby looks like a doll, with which they played as a child - a sort of unbreakable toy, all receptive and willing to constantly kept her in his arms. How bitter was the awakening, when the most tiny and cute babies dodge embrace, perceiving them as a deprivation of liberty. Even if we are so lucky that our child likes to sit on our lap, she likes to be kissed and hugged, is luck can not last long. The time is coming, and we see this as a "manual" the child becomes an adult. He does not mind that he was held in his arms when he sleeps or gets sick or when we read him a story, but that he now decides how, where and when we can do it, and it gives rise to have a sense of resentment, rejection.